Four days before the World Trade Center Bombings I was meditating on Psalm 42. Sometimes God is preparing our hearts for things we don’t even know we need. So for all of you who are fine right now, there’s no tragedy you are fighting against, no illness you are seeking to overcome, no relationship that … More When Wounded Hearts Heal
David P. Rogers reviewed Counseling the Word in the Local Church: An Introduction to a Philosophy of Biblical Co… A good resource for knowing where to start the conversation May 16, 2018 “As Christians navigate the world and the church, applying a biblical model in unofficial and official counseling situations comes up with regularity. The reality is … More First Review is In for the New Book
Friday Musings Psalm 102:1–7, 12-14, 18-19 (ESV) A prayer of one afflicted, when he is faint and pours out his complaint before the Lord. 1 Hear my prayer, O Lord; . let my cry come to you! 2 Do not hide your face from me . in the day of my distress! . Incline your ear … More When Pain is the Avenue to Beauty
How to Deal with the Killer of Unity in Any Relationship My mentor and friend surprised me the other day. I asked if he could recommend a go-to resource on marriage. I figured he would point to any number of more recent publications by major evangelical authors. Not so. He suggested Larry Crabb’s 1991 publication…
Tuesday is for Counseling He knew he was going to die. The one task he had to do before it happened was to prepare his best friends and family for the reality of a ticking clock that would end his life within 18 hours. He knew their world would be rocked. He loved them. He … More On the Night Before He Suffered
For all those who live “Beyond the Honeymoon” Some friends, some of them for 40 years and some of them for two, have been having difficulty in their marriages. I have been exercised in prayer for them and concerned for the health of their families. With a few, I have shared this short article that … More In 1991, My Heart Was Breaking
Sunday Musings The following quote comes from Richard Sibbs, but it was shared with me by Roger Knowlton. Roger is one of the men from TEAM 500, a group of pastors of the Evangelical Free Church of America who serve churches between 500 and 1000 souls. Two weeks ago, I was able to spend three days … More Bringing a Man from Nature to Glory
Wednesday is for Thinking Meditation on Isaiah 9:6 Some years ago, I was counseling with a man who was crushed in spirit. As we talked, it was becoming clear to me that he was living with a monster. He had neglected his wife for the duration of his marriage and now he was finding out … More Wonderful Counselor, What Does it Mean?
Involved in a lot of counseling of late and some of the problems in helping people reminded me of this post from a three years ago. For more see: The Right Thing Is Not Always the Effective Thing.
Three Obstacles to Pastoring and Caring for the Flock The Individualistic Nature of the Culture. Example: An attitude that basically says, “It’s none of your business.” Analysis: The result is that people are islands of festering wounds. They are . … More Three Modern Obstacles to Pastoring and Caring for the Flock